Bachelorette Party Planning
Chances are that at some point in your life, you'll be asked to stand up as Maid of Honor at a friend or relative's wedding. And while the travails of bridesmaidery are vast and varied, one of the more tricky feats involved in being the Maid of Honor is planning a bachelorette party that isn't embarrassing while it's occurring. If the thought of competing with the guys and putting your hands down a strange man's pants leaves you considering the convent, don't give up hope on having a great bachelorette party. You, too, can celebrate a friend's last days of as a single girl in an all-out fun way. Planning a bachelorette party may seem daunting for a maid of honor, but like many things in life, success is 90% preparation and only 10% inspiration. More simply put, planning ahead will save you from a lot of unnecessary stress. Soliciting ideas from the other bridesmaids doesn't hurt either. To help you organize a send-off that properly celebrates the end of your best friend's single life, we've put together a handy checklist:
Planning a Bachelorette Party….Follow the Checklist:
3 Months Before the Party!
- Ask the bride what she wants (or doesn't want) in terms of a bachelorette party. Will it be a night of terror on the town, complete with Jell-O shots, a scavenger hunt, and X-rated dancers? A quiet weekend getaway? Martinis at a mod cocktail lounge? A living room lingerie exchange? Pizza and pool at a local dive? Karaoke? Casino themed party?
- Establish her comfort levels. If she wants G-rated instead of G-string, review your options together. If she does want to walk on the wild side? Get her to define exactly what that means. Remember, while you want her to cut loose, you don't want to mortally embarrass her, or worse, totally freak her out.
- Set the date -- shoot for a weekend night about one to two weeks before the wedding day. (If members of the bridal party are from all over and can only convene a few days before, that timing works, too…BUT don’t pull a “hangover” stunt!)
- Create the guest list.
2 Months Before the Party!
- Send out a casual "save the date" email to see if there are any major conflicts among invitees. If you're partying far away, include specific details.
- Brainstorm possible game plans and party stunts with the bridesmaids (make it a surprise for the bride).
- If the party will be at a hot spot or out of town (the only exotic club in town, a popular tapas bar, a rock concert, someone's beach house...), make reservations, order tickets, and deal with lodging and bachelorette party transportation details.
- No matter what the format, alcohol and bachelorette revelry usually go hand in hand. Be responsible. Start thinking about transportation arrangements…many ladies opts for booking a chauffeured limo, bus, or van for the evening. Call around to compare rates.
- Research and book any talent that might make an appearance at the soiree.
1 Month Before the Party!
- Send invitations. Emailing and calling is okay, too. Make sure your invitation politely informs guests that a contribution to the festivities will be expected and name the price.
- If you're going with the standard pub crawl, devise the itinerary. Start out with dinner at a rowdy restaurant (you don't want to drink on an empty stomach) and map out all the establishments you want to hit plus what time you'll be popping in. Planning it out this way will help you book your transportation for the proper length of time, and it limits the carousing so that you don't overdo it or spend too much cash. Make all necessary reservations, even at bars. Ask about drink specials and bachelorette freebies.
- Make your transportation reservation(s). Do it earlier if you live in a metropolitan area, are partying during festival season, or when the number of pre-wedding parties tends to peak.
- If you're partying at home, help the hostess plan refreshments and activities. Make a shopping list. Divide up to-dos among bridesmaids: games, decorations, booze-buying, stereo and/or karaoke set-up, CD duty, etc.
1 Week Before the Party!
- Buy bachelorette party accessories such as the novelty veil or tiara, bite-me candy necklaces, and other naughty props….BROWSE OUR SITE – imbesharam.com FOR the naughtiest and whackiest PRODUCTS!!
- Make a list of the games you want to play, with rules and how-to’s, lest you forget after too many margaritas. Keep it handy.
- If you're having a scavenger hunt, conspire with your maids and make a list of the mischievous missions the bride will have to fulfill throughout the course of the evening. Keep that handy, too.
- Confirm RSVPs
- Confirm transportation arrangements
- Confirm the at-home entertainment
1 Day Before the Party!
- Debrief the bride (it's okay to keep some of the details a surprise).
- Remind guests of the meeting place and time, reiterating the address. If there are several stops planned, name the second address, too, for latecomers.
- Re-confirm all reservations.
- Get plenty of sleep.