Whatsapp
Picture this. You are peacefully scrolling on your phone, checking out sex toys on Imbesharam like vibrators for women or a naughty couples sex toy, and just when you zoom into a dildo size chart, your mom yells your name from the hall. Tab instantly closed. Screen face down. Soul left body.
If that has ever been you, hi, you are very much the Indian audience this blog is for.
Most of us in India grew up with zero real sex education and a whole lot of "shhh, we do not talk about these things." So obviously, when it comes to sex toys, the myths, guilt, and wild WhatsApp University theories are on another level. But here is the thing: sex toys are not scandals. They are tools for pleasure, self discovery, and better intimacy - whether you are single, dating, married, living alone, or sharing a 2BHK with 6 family members and one nosy neighbor.
So today, we are taking five of the biggest sex toy myths doing the rounds in India and officially retiring them. Like "last season shaadi outfit" levels of retired.
Myth 1: "Sex toys will replace my partner."
Let us start with the most dramatic myth of them all.
A lot of Indian partners secretly panic when they hear the words "vibrator" or "masturbators". The fear is usually the same: "What if they like the sex toy more than me?" or "If she gets a vibrator, am I useless now?"
Here is the truth: sex toys are supplements, not replacements. They do not come with emotional connection, inside jokes, warm hugs, or that one specific way your partner touches your hair. What they do bring is variety, less pressure to "perform", and more ways to enjoy each other’s bodies.
Think of it like this: you are not replacing home cooked food by occasionally ordering in. You are just adding more options. Sex toys work exactly like that for pleasure. Couples sex toys especially are designed to be used together - to make things more playful, experimental, and less stressful in the bedroom.
If you are curious to introduce something simple in your relationship, you can start with a classic like the Magic Wand Rechargeable Vibrator. It is powerful but super versatile - great for clitoral stimulation, back massages, and even teasing thighs or nipples during foreplay. It does not steal the show, it joins the cast.
For couples who want to try something more high tech and romantic, long distance or not, a smart sex toy such as the Lovense Lush 3 Wireless Smart Vibrator is a fun option. It is app controlled, which means your partner can literally control your pleasure from the next room, next city, or next country. That is not replacing intimacy, that is upgrading flirting.
You can also explore our full vibrators collection and long distance sex toys if you want to slowly ease into couples sex toys at your own pace.
Myth 2: "Using sex toys will make you addicted."
This one usually sounds like:
- "Once you start using sex toys, you will never enjoy normal sex again."
- "She bought a vibrator, now she will need dont need me as much as before"
- "If he starts using masturbators, he will stop having sex with me."
Relax. This is not a Netflix series called Breaking Bed.
What really happens for most people is not "addiction", it is habit. If you have found a sex toy that reliably helps you orgasm, your brain remembers that shortcut and goes, "Arre yaar, use the thing that works." That does not mean your body has forgotten how to respond to touch or that you will never enjoy hands, mouths, or penetration again.
If you feel like you are relying on a sex toy too much, you can always take a break, slow down, and explore other forms of pleasure: more foreplay, sensual massages, different positions, or just using your hands. You are always in control of how often you use any sex toy.
For women who are still figuring out what their body likes, sex toys like clitoral vibrators, G spot vibrators, and dildos for beginners can actually build body awareness instead of "spoiling" you. The Satisfyer Pro 2 Rechargeable Pressure Wave Vibrator is a great example - it uses air pressure sensations instead of harsh vibration, making it an amazing tool for discovering your clitoral responses in a gentle, controlled way.
For men, sex toys like masturbators, penis sleeves, and Fleshlights are not "addiction starters". They are simply more interesting versions of your hand. The Fleshlight Girls Angela White Masturbator and our full masturbators and fleshlight collections are built for pleasure, not dependence.
If you ever feel your sex toy use is affecting your work, relationships, or daily functioning, that is when it is worth speaking to a therapist. But for the average person, using sex toys - even regularly - is just that: using sex toys, not ruining your life.
Myth 3: "Vibrators can permanently damage or numb your genitals."
This one is super popular among people who are already uncomfortable with women’s pleasure in general. The story usually goes: "If you use strong vibrators for women, your clitoris or penis will become numb and you will never enjoy sex again."
In reality, when you use a powerful vibrator on a high setting for a long time, you might feel a bit numb or extra sensitive right after. That temporary feeling is like when your fingers feel buzzy after holding a loud mixer or your legs feel weird after sitting too long. It is not permanent damage, it is your nerves saying, "Bas, thoda break de."
Most doctors agree that vibrators used as intended do not cause permanent nerve damage in healthy genitals. The key is listening to your body. If something feels too intense, turn down the setting, move the sex toy around, or pause for a few minutes.
Choosing body safe, good quality sex toys also matters. Cheap, badly made sex toys with poor materials and harsh motors can feel jarring rather than pleasurable. Trusted brands and well designed sex toys are built to be enjoyed, not to injure.
If you are curious but scared, start with softer sex toys and mid level intensity. Clitoral sex toys from our clitoral vibrators or G spot vibrators sections are designed exactly for this - to give targeted, controllable stimulation.
Even classic dildos do not vibrate at all and still feel incredible for internal pleasure. Something like the Mono Density Metallic Shine Soft Silicone Dildo offers a smooth, body safe, no batteries experience which is perfect for beginners who just want to explore penetration at their own pace. You can always browse more options in our dildos collection, including dildos for beginners who want smaller sizes and softer materials.
Long story short: your bits are not that fragile. Use lube, use body safe sex toys, give yourself breaks, and your body will absolutely be okay.
Myth 4: "A sex toy will instantly fix my sex life or relationship."
We wish this one was true, honestly. Imagine buying one vibrator and suddenly: no performance anxiety, no mismatched libidos, no communication issues, no shame, no past trauma. Just vibes.
Sadly, real life does not work like that.
Sex toys are tools, not magic spells. They can help you:
- reach orgasm more easily,
- reduce performance pressure,
- explore new erogenous zones,
- and create playful, low stress moments with a partner.
But they cannot:
- heal deep sexual shame,
- fix painful sex due to medical reasons,
- undo past trauma,
- or replace honest conversations about what you both want.
If, for example, penetration is painful because of conditions like vaginismus or dryness, a vibrator alone will not fix it. You may need a doctor, therapist, pelvic floor physio, or all three. Sex toys can support your journey, but they are not a "shortcut to healing".
Where they do shine is in making the process more fun and less intimidating. A couple that struggles to talk about sex might find it easier to start with a simple sex toy and say, "Can we try this together?" instead of jumping into a big serious talk. For that, couples sex toys like app controlled vibrators or remote controlled sex toys from our remote controlled, app controlled vibrators, or We Vibe collection can be really helpful.
You can also bring in smaller, non intimidating sex toys like vibrating panties from our vibrating panties collection to keep things flirty and light, especially for couples who feel shy talking about sex directly.
And yes, sometimes even a simple cock ring can make a big difference. Something like the Boners Cock Ring And Ball Stretcher can support harder, longer lasting erections and reduce anxiety around "performance" without turning sex into a clinical experience. But again, it is a helper, not the whole solution.
So if your sex life feels off, think of sex toys as supportive friends, not miracle workers. Add them to better communication, consent, care, and maybe professional help where needed. That combination is where the real magic happens.
Myth 5: "Anything can be a sex toy if you are brave enough."
Okay, this one needs to retire yesterday. We have all seen the jokes online and heard whispered stories: cucumbers, remote controls, glass bottles, random household objects, "jugaad" solutions. It sounds funny until someone lands in the emergency room.
Sex toys are not just "any objects you put inside or rub against your genitals". Proper sex toys are made from body safe materials like medical grade silicone, stainless steel, or high quality glass. They are designed to be non porous (so they do not trap bacteria), smooth, easy to clean, and shaped in a way that is safe for penetration and stimulation.
Household objects and DIY hacks can:
- cause micro tears or cuts,
- introduce infections,
- get stuck inside (especially in the anus, where there is no "exit control"),
- or even break mid use.
When you are using an anal sex toy, for example, you want something designed with a flared base so it cannot disappear inside. Butt plugs from our butt plug collection or curated anal fun collection are built exactly for this. They are not there just to look cute, they are engineered to be safe.
The same goes for penis sex toys. If you want more stimulation or girth, there are actual penis sleeves and penis pumps that are created to work with your body, not against it. If you are curious about stroker sex toys, our masturbators section has sleeves, eggs, and Fleshlights designed to be stretchy, body safe, and easy to wash.
DIY is great for home decor. Not so great for your genitals. Your pleasure parts deserve better than a risky experiment and a panicked "Doctor, actually what happened was..." conversation.
So... where do you start if you are still shy?
If you have made it this far, chances are at least one of these myths was sitting quietly in your mind for years. That is okay. You believed what you were taught or overheard. Now you know better.
If you are a woman exploring solo pleasure for the first time, you can start with smaller vibrators for women like bullets, clitoral sex toys, or slim dildos for beginners. Our vibrators, clitoral vibrators, and dildos collections have options that are gentle, compact, and beginner friendly.
If you are a man, you might start with a simple masturbator, a cock ring, or even a Fleshlight. Check out masturbators, fleshlight, cock rings, and oral sex toys for men to see what matches your vibe.
If you are a couple, go slow and talk about it. Maybe send each other links from bedroom games, long distance toys, or We Vibe and say, "Would you ever want to try this with me?" Let sex toys be part of your flirting, not something you hide in guilt.
And if you are queer, there are also specific spaces curated for you, like sex toys for lesbians and sex toys for gay men, so you are not trying to "adjust" straight toys to fit your reality all the time.
Pleasure is not the problem. Myths are.
Sex toys are not dirty, shameful, or dangerous by default. The problem is not the vibrator or the dildo or the butt plug. The problem is the silence around them. The shame. The dramatic myths whispered in corridors and flooded into DMs.
When we let those myths retire, we make more space for informed choices, safer bodies, and happier relationships - whether that is with a partner or just with yourself.
So if your curiosity has been quietly knocking for years, this is your sign. Start small. Start slow. Start with one sex toy that feels right. Explore our collections for women, men, and couples and buy safe sex toys online in India at your own pace. Take your time. Read, learn, feel, and most importantly, remember: in your pleasure journey, you are in charge - the sex toy is just here to help.
