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If you’ve ever added a vibrating dildo to cart, stared at it for three days, and still thought, “Okay but… what do I actually do with this?”, you are so not alone. Especially in India, most of us grow up with zero real sex education and a lot of shame. So when a box of sex toys shows up, the excitement is real, but so is the confusion.
Think of this as your chill, no-judgement guide to how to use a vibrating dildo – whether you’re totally new to sex toys, already into vibrators for women, or you and your partner are just looking for something fun to spice up the bedroom.
So, what exactly is a vibrating dildo?
A vibrating dildo is basically a dildo and a vibrator rolled into one. It gives you that stretchy, full feeling of penetration and adds those delicious buzzy vibrations on top. Many vibrating dildos are shaped like a penis with a tapered tip and sometimes veins or balls, while others are sleek and minimal with just a smooth shaft. Most are made from body-safe materials like silicone or realistic-feel blends that mimic skin.
Because it vibrates and penetrates, you can use it on the clitoris, labia, nipples and other erogenous zones, and then slide it inside for G-spot or even anal and prostate play if you’re into that. It’s a multipurpose sex toy, which is why it’s so popular with people who want one toy that can do a lot of different things.
If you’re completely new to dildos for beginners, something simple like the Neon Supersmooth Dildo or the Mono Density Metallic Shine Soft Silicone Dildo is a great place to start. They keep things smooth, soft and non-intimidating, so you can focus on your own pleasure instead of worrying about “doing it right.”
Step one: Get your head (and body) in the mood
Before you even touch the vibrating dildo, give yourself permission to enjoy this. You’re not being “cheap,” “easy,” or “too much” for wanting to feel good. You’re just a human with a body that deserves pleasure.
Set the mood the way you like it. This could be dim lights, a locked door, your favourite playlist, or some steamy erotica in your earbuds. For couples, this can be part of a slow make-out session, a massage, or playful teasing with hands and mouths first. Warming up your body makes penetration and strong vibrations feel more pleasurable and less intense.
You can even use the toy as part of foreplay without inserting it yet. Let the dildo glide over your inner thighs, stomach, nipples, and outer vulva or along the shaft and balls for penis owners. Think of it as an exploration tool, not a race to orgasm.
Step two: Lube is not optional, it’s essential
If there is one thing that instantly makes sex toys better, it’s lube. Whether you are using a vibrating dildo vaginally or anally, adding a generous amount of a good sexual lubricant will make everything smoother, safer and way more pleasurable.
For most silicone dildos, a water-based or hybrid lube is the safest bet because it won’t interfere with the material and is easy to wash off. Some silicone toys can handle silicone-based lube, but it’s better to check the product or manual first. Oil-based lubes usually aren’t great down there because they’re harder to clean and can cause irritation or damage condoms.
For anal play, use a thicker lube and be extra generous. The anus does not self-lubricate the way the vagina does, so lube is your best friend here. If you’re exploring anal, you may also want to check out the butt plugs collection to warm up first.
Step three: Using your vibrating dildo internally
Once you’re turned on and lubed up, you can start with internal play.
If you have a vagina and want to find your G-spot, use your fingers first to explore. The G-spot is usually on the upper wall of the vagina, a few centimetres in, and may feel slightly ridged or spongy. If you have a prostate, it’s located a few centimetres inside the anus towards the front of the body – often called the P-spot, and when stimulated, it can create deep, full-body orgasms.
Once you’re roughly aware of what feels good, apply more lube to your dildo and slowly guide the tip in. You don’t need to insert it all the way right away. Let your body adjust to the fullness. Keep breathing, keep checking in with your own comfort, and don’t hesitate to pull back if something feels like too much.
After you’re comfortable with the dildo inside you, turn on the vibrations at the lowest setting. Give your body a minute or two to get used to the sensation. Many vibrators have several modes and patterns, from gentle buzzes to pulsing waves and strong steady vibrations. You can slowly work your way up in intensity or switch between patterns to see what your body responds to best.
You can keep the toy almost still and just enjoy the internal buzzing, or you can gently move it in and out, rotate it, or angle it upwards towards the G-spot or prostate. A curved toy like the Lovense Mission 2 Smart Vibrating Dildo makes it easier to reach these spots without having to twist your wrist into weird positions.
For some people, the best orgasms happen when they use the vibrating dildo inside while stimulating the clitoris or penis externally with their hand or another sex toy. This is totally normal – most vulva owners don’t orgasm through penetration alone, and that’s exactly why sex toys exist.
Step four: Using it externally (because penetration is not mandatory)
You absolutely do not have to insert a vibrating dildo to enjoy it. You can have amazing orgasms just by using it externally.
You can glide the tip or the side of the dildo over your clitoris, labia, nipples, neck, inner thighs, perineum and even the area around the anus without going inside. A small amount of lube on the surface makes it feel extra silky and reduces any friction. Many people find they prefer starting with external play and only inserting the toy once they’re really aroused – or they never insert it at all and still get intense orgasms.
If you’re a fan of pillow humping or grinding, you can get creative. Place the vibrating dildo between a pillow and your body, or sandwich it between two pillows and grind on it while the vibrations run through the fabric. Adjust pressure and angle until you hit your favourite spot. It’s discreet, hands-free, and feels surprisingly good.
Step five: Bring your partner into the fun
Vibrating dildos are amazing solo, but they are also brilliant couples sex toys.
During foreplay, one partner can use the dildo to tease the other’s outer erogenous zones – across the chest, between the thighs, over the penis or clit, along the butt and lower back. Switching vibration patterns right when your partner is begging for more is a fun way to build anticipation.
You can also play with double penetration – for example, a penis in the vagina and a vibrating dildo in the anus, or a dildo in the vagina and fingers in the anus. This should only be done with a lot of lube, a lot of communication, and zero pressure. For people with vulvas, using a vibrating dildo on the clitoris during penetrative sex can make it much easier to reach orgasm.
If you’re curious about strap-on play, the Strap-On Me Curvy Dildo Plug is shaped to sit comfortably in a harness and give that delicious curve inside the receiver. This works for queer couples, pegging between a woman and a man, or any combo where someone wants to take on the “giving” role. Pairing a strap-on dildo with a masturbators collection or the Fleshlight collection for the other partner can also create a fun, balanced dynamic where both people are getting intense stimulation.
And if you’re in a long-distance relationship, something like the Lovense Mission 2 Smart Vibrating Dildo or a Kiiroo Keon compatible dildo lets one partner control the toy through an app, so your “good night” calls can turn into something a lot more memorable.
Different vibes for different people
Not every body, relationship, or fantasy wants the same kind of toy. Here’s how your options roughly break down, and where your IMBesharam picks fit in.
Some people love that realistic, porn-star style look with veins, a defined head, and a lifelike shape. If that’s you, a toy like the King Cock 8" Flesh Realistic Dildo or Fleshlight Guys Johnny Sins Dildo is perfect for roleplay, solo fantasy sessions, or couples who want to bring a “third” into the bedroom without actually inviting anyone else.
If you’re more into sleek toys that don’t scream “penis,” go for smoother, minimal designs. The Neon Supersmooth Dildo or Mono Density Metallic Shine Soft Silicone Dildo fit beautifully into this category – easy to clean, easy on the eyes, and great for people who care more about the feeling than the look.
Then there’s the texture and material game. Glass toys like the Glas 6.5" Spiral Dildo and Glas Double Trouble Purple Dildo give a very different sensation. Glass is smooth, firm and can be warmed or cooled with water for temperature play, and designs like spirals or curves can make G-spot or P-spot stimulation more intense.
For pressure lovers, the Njoy Pure Wand is legendary. It’s a heavy, curved stainless-steel wand designed to hook into the G-spot or prostate so you can apply firm, controlled pressure. It’s not “soft and squishy,” but if you love deep, focused stimulation, this is a power move.
If you’re more interested in strap-on or pegging play, the Strap-On Me Curvy Dildo Plug is built to sit comfortably in a harness and give that perfect curve for hitting internal hot spots. Paired with a good harness, it’s ideal for queer couples, women using it on men, or anyone who wants to explore roles beyond what their own body parts can do.
And of course, for the tech-obsessed, app-controlled vibrating dildos like the Lovense Mission 2 Smart Vibrating Dildo or a machine-compatible option like the Kiiroo Keon Vacuum Lock Dildo can connect to apps, patterns and even long-distance partners. That means your partner can control the speed and intensity from another room, another city, or even another country.
If you want to keep browsing and see what kind of dildos call out to you, you can always explore the full dildos collection.
Safety, hygiene and keeping your toy happy
Because you’re putting this toy inside some of the most sensitive parts of your body, quality and hygiene matter a lot. It’s always best to buy sex toys from trusted adult stores that work with reputable manufacturers and use body-safe materials. Cheap, unlabelled toys can sometimes contain irritating or unsafe substances, and that’s the last thing you want inside your vagina or anus.
If you’re sharing a vibrating dildo with a partner, especially if you’re switching between vagina and anus or between different people, use a condom on the toy and change it between users or openings. This lowers the risk of infections and also makes cleanup quicker.
After play, check whether your toy is waterproof or just splashproof, and clean it accordingly. Fully waterproof toys can usually be rinsed under running water with mild soap or a dedicated toy cleaner, while splashproof ones should be wiped carefully, keeping water away from the charging port or battery compartment. A quick clean before and after each use keeps your toy fresh and your body safer.
And finally, listen to your body. A little intensity can be thrilling, but pain, burning or numbness are signals to slow down, add more lube, change positions, or take a break. You’re not trying to prove anything; you’re trying to feel good.
Level up your pleasure journey
Once you’re comfortable using a vibrating dildo, you can start playing around with more advanced toys or different categories. Maybe you add a butt plugs collection toy into the mix for more fullness, pair your dildo with a cock ring or explore penis pumps if you’re curious about stronger erections and sensitivity. You can explore the wider world of vibrators collection, strap-ons collection as couples sex toys, and anal lubes to make everything smoother and more comfortable.
The goal isn’t to collect every toy on the site. It’s to find the one or two things that make you feel the most like yourself – relaxed, turned on, and fully present in your own body.
A little reminder before you go charge that toy
Using a vibrating dildo doesn’t make you “desperate,” “weird,” or “too sexual.” It just means you are curious enough about your own pleasure to explore it. That is something to be proud of, not ashamed of.
Whether you’re exploring your body for the first time, rebuilding intimacy after a dry spell, or just adding a new prop to your already spicy sex life, a good vibrating dildo can be a total game changer. Start slow, use lube, keep things clean, and talk openly with your partner if you’re using it together.
And if you ever feel like upgrading, experimenting or just browsing while bored at work (we won’t tell), you know exactly where to find your next favourite toy: right here on IMBesharam, with safe, high-quality sex toys that are shipped discreetly across India.
