Having the best sex of your life but still not hitting an orgasm? Here is why!

While we might have transitioned into the 21st century where pleasure is less shamed, and orgasms are more talked about, multiple research highlights that while 91% of penis owners can orgasm during intercourse, 75% of vulva owners cannot with intercourse alone. Superficially this might appear as a lack of interest or passion, digging deeper might unearth factors you haven't thought of before. So, hold onto the ground tight as we reveal the treasure tips of understanding your orgasms better.

For a long time, we’ve been conditioned to believe that successful sexual encounters must end in orgasms hence, we tend to focus our energy on achieving the orgasm and making it the sole goal of sex. When a sexual encounter doesn’t result in the “goals” we anticipated, we move onto exploring the why’s- some might think their partners are not interested in them, while others might just blame themselves for not being good enough.

While It’s critical to understand and accept that lack of orgasms in any sexual encounter is normal and okay, it’s equally valid to want a happy ending. Alongside your mental, emotional and physical health, there can be multiple factors outside the bedroom that can impact your climax. Some of these factors could include:

1. Anxiety – Is your next big presentation weighing down on your partner? Are you thinking about the big event next month while being intimate with yourself?
2. Mood – Are you really in the mood for sex? Or are you doing it to keep your partner happy? Did you have a mean day at work and all you wanna do today is cuddle?
3. Feel – Are you feeling sexy today? Did someone pass an unnecessary remark on how you look? Do you have any uncomfortable feelings that you want to share with your partner?
4. Communication – Did you tell your partner what you really enjoy in bed? Do you feel ashamed in sharing your kinks with your partner & rather compromise with what they like?
5. Results – Are you feeling scared about your sexual performance? Are you so focused on the result of sex that you’re not focused on the moment?

Making a perfect mix like the cocktail you enjoy before going to bed, these factors add a flavour to your sex life, and no flavour can go wrong for the cocktail to taste right. But, don’t get disheartened that the sex didn’t end up being the way you wanted it. Remember, communication is the key! So, communicate with yourself, with your partner about what went wrong, and there’s always tomorrow! If the problem still persists, we recommend getting professional help from a doctor or trying therapy.

Disclaimer: The information provided is based on research and references extracted from the web. This information is not intended to act as a substitute for professional medical help. Kindly see a doctor for further assistance.