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Once upon a time there was a boy who met a girl. They texted all day and all night, laughed at each other's memes, finished each other's sentences and most importantly loved white sauce pasta. They decided to finally meet. The date went great and things were moving towards the bedroom. The girl asked ‘Shall we f*ck all night?” and the boy said yes without skipping a beat. But Alas! Several beats were skipped as the boy lasted for as long as the F.R.I.E.N.D.S, the boy was sad and the girl texted her friends about her night.
The End.
Sexual satisfaction is one of the important components of human relationships, and for many individuals, the ability to last longer in bed is a common desire. Who wouldn’t want bedtime activities to last longer? While premature ejaculation and difficulties with stamina can be common concerns for men, the search for sexual endurance is beyond gender and sexual orientation. Sexual satisfaction is a two-way street, where both partners should experience mutual enjoyment. That also translates to a woman won’t come if she decides to blow you.
Premature Ejaculation 101
Premature ejaculation is a very common concern for men. It’s when ejaculation occurs sooner than expected, most often before penetration. In many cases, it cannot be helped and can result in the general atmosphere turning slightly awkward. For most men, this can lead to frustration, anxiety, and dissatisfaction in the bedroom. However, it's essential to recognize that premature ejaculation can affect individuals of all genders and orientations. And it can affect those involved with someone with a similar concern. While the man can be the one affected it can also cause their partner similar struggles. Women often self-doubt or lack sexual satisfaction for the same reason too.
First things first, understanding the root causes of premature ejaculation is a crucial step towards addressing the issue.
Let’s address any:
- Psychological Factors: Anxiety, stress, performance pressure, and relationship issues can contribute to PE. Addressing these underlying psychological factors is essential for improving sexual stamina.
- Physiological Factors: Hormonal imbalances, nerve sensitivity, and other physiological factors can also play a role. Consulting a healthcare professional can help identify and manage these issues.
Yup, PE can be due to psychological or physiological factors and that can often be solved with a medical professional. You ain’t alone, son! But it takes work, so addressing it and getting the help required is key, don’t choose to ignore it and assume things will simply just work out on their own.
Tips for Lasting Longer in Bed
- Tighten up those muscles AKA Kegel Exercise:
Verdict is out! Kegel exercises are not just for women! They can also benefit men seeking better control over their shooters. These exercises target the pelvic floor muscles, which play a significant role in sexual performance. To practice Kegels, spot the muscles you use to stop the flow of urine, contract them for a few seconds, and then release them. Regular Kegel exercises can improve your sexual stamina. This might feel like rocket science at first and that’s only cause we are telling you what to do in theory. But honestly, your body has already recognised these muscles and now you’ve just been made aware of them. So it’s easier to wake them up when required.
- The Red Light, Green Light AKA The Stop-Start Technique:
The stop-start technique is possibly a good way to manage premature ejaculation. During sex, when you feel you are approaching the finish line, stop all sexual activity. Take a break, and when you feel in control again, resume. This technique can help you become more aware of your arousal levels and delay finishing. When taking a break, choose to engage in other activities like going down on your partner, or teasing them. You can even bring in a toy during this time to keep the rhythm going and flowing.
- The Squeeze Technique:
The squeeze technique is a variation of the stop-start method. The difference is the same as the difference between paneer butter masala and butter chicken. When you feel you're nearing climax, ask your partner to squeeze the base of your penis firmly for about 30 seconds. This can delay ejaculation and allow you to continue sexual activity. This way both you and your partner can get involved, letting you be more vulnerable too.
- Focus on Breathing:
Deep, slow breathing can help reduce anxiety and enhance control over your body's arousal response. Concentrate on your breathing patterns during sexual activity to help calm your nerves and prolong your stamina. Take sexual activities slow and don’t get too excited by the process. It’s not something to need to get over with and neither is it a marathon. Pace yourself and work your stamina through it.
- Mindfulness and Relaxation Techniques:
You thought we wouldn’t bring yoga into this? Well, you thought wrong! Incorporating mindfulness and relaxation techniques into your daily routine can help reduce anxiety and stress, which can contribute to PE. Practices like meditation and yoga can have a positive impact on your sexual performance. It sounds low-key like my mom here, but it is true. Yoga can solve everything! Including your dinner plans for next Friday.
- Experiment with Different Positions:
Certain sexual positions may help you last longer in bed. Positions that provide less stimulation, such as those where you have more control over the rhythm, can be beneficial. Exploring different positions with your partner can lead to a more satisfying and prolonged experience. The next time you’re having partnered sex, try positions like spooning or the cowgirl. You can also try other positions where your partner is more in control, allowing your legs and pelvic muscles to relax.
- You always have some products:
Some wellness products, such as topical creams or sprays, can be applied to the penis to reduce sensitivity temporarily. While these products can be helpful, it's essential to use them as directed and communicate with your partner to ensure their comfort and safety.
- Communication with Your Partner:
Open and honest communication with your partner is key to a satisfying sexual experience. Discuss your concerns and desires with your partner, and work together to find strategies to enhance your enjoyment. Sometimes, its all in the head and a lot of communication can change everything! Communication takes away from any anxiety you would face, it automatically helps with feeling less alone during the process.
- Masturbation and Edging:
Practicing edging during solo masturbation sessions can help improve control during intercourse. Edging involves intentionally delaying orgasm during self-stimulation, which can help you become more attuned to your arousal levels. Take it to the edge! This is also a great way to tease your partner and help both of you last longer in bed too.
- Sexual Education and Professional Help:
While these tips could work if done right and consistently, we do recommend getting professional help. Don't hesitate to seek information and guidance about sexual performance. Sex therapists and healthcare professionals specialize in addressing issues related to sexual performance and can offer personalized solutions and support. Personalized support will help you target the issue directly rather than general assumptions.
The journey to lasting longer in bed is a personal one, and it's essential to understand that sexual performance is not solely about lasting a specific duration. It's about achieving mutual satisfaction and creating a fulfilling, intimate connection with your partner. Remember that patience, practice, and communication are key elements of sexual well-being. Don't be discouraged by occasional setbacks, as sexual stamina can improve over time with dedication and a willingness to learn and adapt. So, the next time you get jiggy don’t get judgey!
