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Hola sexy people !! Thinking about adding some kink and a lot more spice to your bedroom? Well, you can hop into the fascinating world of BDSM.
OKAY! So, What is BDSM?
BDSM!! One of the most misunderstood forms of sex. It is often thought of as mental and physical abuse. But fret not! It is none of these things. This sensuous act is way more than what you saw in "Fifty Shades of Grey".
BDSM is erotic practices or roleplay involving Bondage and Discipline, Dominance and Submission, and Sadism and Masochism, which means sexual, psychological and, physical role-play that involves the exchange of power between consensual participants.
It does not always involve sex, it is a play of power and submission with sensual accessories like Cuffs, Whips, Bondage, Candles, Chains, Adult Toys, and a lot more. You can buy a variety of sex toys online to double up your game.
BDSM would inevitably sound intriguing to you by now. So, now if you want to spice things up in your bedroom or your play space, there are some rules of this trade.
Keep in mind the 3 Golden Rule: SSC
Before you all step into this kinky world of BDSM make sure you know the three golden rules of BDSM; i.e., Safe, Sane and Consensual.
Safe: Just like safe sex, Prep yourself to be safe in a BDSM environment too. Research about the techniques and acts you want to perform.
Sane: One of the golden rules of BDSM is Sane. Wondering what Sane is? Many times people get so much deeper into the fantasies that they forget about reality. So, it is advised to understand the thin line between fantasy and reality.
Consensual: As ironic as it may sound, as BDSM is about being Dominant and Submissive, Consent is an indispensable element of BDSM. The submissive partner should give consent to the dominant partner before going for some acts.
Take it at a slow pace
Remember to take it slow, just like the first time you had sex. BDSM is not only about physical intimacy, it comes with a wide range of activities for you to explore. Rushing and mixing all of them might cause harm to you and your partner. So, Go Sloooooow. You are not in a race.
Make sure you have your safe words
Playing around with those BDSM toys is fun but only if you remember your safe words.
Safe words are one of the most significant parts of BDSM. When things are intense and heated up between you and your partner, it is good to have "Safe Words". Most people like to go for safe words like Red, Yellow, and Green. Red stands for 'Stop Immediately'; Yellow stands for 'Go slow' or 'It is getting a bit uncomfortable'; Green stands for 'I like it or 'Go harder'.
Though it is easy to remember these words as it relates to traffic lights, you can have your own safe words, whatever you like. You can also have non-verbal safe words if you are incorporating breath-play or gags. But again, make sure you follow these safe words.
Pre-decide on the roles
It is always a good option to decide your roles before you indulge in BDSM activities. You and your partner should try to refrain from deciding on activities in the middle of roleplay. Make your BDSM act a success by pre-deciding on your roleplaying characters. BDSM should be fun and exciting, not you guys bickering in the middle of your fantasy world.
Prepare for an SOS
Sometimes people prepare an 'SOS call' or 'Safe Call'. They ask one of their friends to call them at a particular time, if they don't pick up they can come to save them if anything goes wrong.
Look out for dangers involved
As much as you would enjoy immersing yourself in BDSM activities. There are a lot of dangers involved in it 'IF' it is UNCONTROLLED. Try to avoid involving any drugs or alcohol in your play space (area designated for BDSM acts).
To sum it up, BDSM promises to add thrill and adventure to you and your partner's life but remember to be responsible and considerate.
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To discover more BDSM ideas, see this Laura Rose Halliday's illustrated guide.
